He's a cheater who is dressing it up with a fancy name--sex addict. Give me a break!

Now here is a man who is sooo hot... super intelligent, sexy, great sense of humor and a great body. I hope he can get his act together before he loses the lovely Tea.

I feel for Tea. My husband is a sex addict who does not admit it. Oddly enough, He and I have no sex life. But he has a very active one with his hand and computer porn. We've been married for going on 13 years. I have suspected it for a long time: as he stayed up late and got up before me.. closing the computer screen when I walk in the room and hiding behind pillows. This week I walked very softly into the living room at 6:30 A.M. and got my suspicions confirmed. So much damage has done we won't make it to 14 years. I'm putting my ducks in a row for a divorce.

On a lighter note, D.D. is hot and I'm a long time fan. I respect him for realizing he has a problem and is getting help. But is this like some conditions, once a sex addict always a sex addict?

If I remember correctly, he used to narrate the soft-porn show, Red Shoe Diaries. Crazy. I hope he can get his act together, and get his life back on track.

Seriously, Sexually Neglected? You're going to divorce your husband for excessive masturbation? Don't you think that's a little harsh? Maybe you should go one step further and chop it off. I can understand if he were cheating with another person, but maybe instead of heading to divorce court you might consider couples therapy, or maybe even watching the porn with him to get a feel for what he's interested in... your sex life might be revived. But divorce makes way more sense.

Anonymous--if you've never been in the situation of catching your husband getting off to pictures of other women when he refuses to have sex with you, then you are really in no place to judge. It is devastating to be that woman.

truth or lie...cover up or real thing...help is help. wish we could all get it.

truth or lie...help is help. wish we could all get it. everyone deserves their privacy. only good thoughts...never judge until you've walked a mile in a person's shoes.

Shut up - yes I have been in that situation before, and yes it sucks. I won't deny that thoughts of leaving didn't cross my mind, but in the grand scheme of things, masturbation is pretty low on the list of divorce worthy acts. If your husband is unwilling to work things out with you or make any effort whatsoever to rekindle the spark, then that's something else altogether. I don't think your husband's a sex addict, I think he's bored. I think you are too, or at least sick and tired of feeling neglected. The best cure for boredom is trying something new, and if that's something you're unwilling to do, then that speaks volumes. I'm not trying to be rude or hateful at the moment, I just think it's sad in today's society that divorce is the automatic response rather than counseling or mediation. There are plenty of people out there who are actually cheating on their spouses, or horribly abusing them... things could be worse. Can you honestly say that you've never fantasized about an attractive actor? The only difference is that men need visual aids to augment their fantasies.
A true sex addict will have actual sex with anyone or anything... it is an actual disease / addiction that can be every bit as debilitating as an addiction to heroin or crack. I don't know if Duchovny is addicted to sex or cheating on Leoni, but I think it's admirable of him to seek treatment in an effort to patch things up with her. I don't understand why he felt the need to announce it to the world, since it seems like a pretty humiliating announcement, but at least he's working on bettering his situation.

In this day and time...we all need to get a life...wake up! Internet porn is not that excessive for divorce proceedings.Have a personal meeting...discuss what could be changed or added in your life. If your willing to be open sexually in marriage, then do it. It is not worth going into divorce for...

It all comes down to love. If you love the person, the addict, you will want to see it through. If the addiction and/or other things have killed your love, then that is really the issue. Having been divorced and then single for 15 years (single mom too) I know that the best thing you can do is EVERYTHING you can think of to try to save the marriage and reignite the love. If, after some serious effort, you can't find the love (not just the passion) then you have your decision. My ex-husband tried very hard to win me back but it not only a trust issue (I had most of that) but it was really a respect issue. If you can't respect your spouse, if you don't fully respect him/her, you are doomed to divorce anyway. There are all sorts of variations on sex addicts -- just like other addictions, like alcohol or drugs, etc. He (your hubby) could be lucky and have more of a compulsion than an addiction at this point. Finally, whenever the interest in sex with each other wanes considerably, you need to work on it THEN. Men are hard wired for sexual thoughts 59 out of every 60 seconds. Your husband's compulsion may certainly be or become an addiction when he takes action outside the marriage. Most sex addicts will tell you that it's NOT FUN. In fact, they often have trouble with their excessive attempts at orgasm which makes them try all the harder. It's a tough one. It sounds like an excuse for a cheater or a sex maniac...but if it is real, the fun is g-o-n-e. Hang in there until you have tried some specific things and then ask yourself: where is your LOVE quotient?

Ersh - above said it Beautifully !!

I Personally like both of you D.D. & T`ea.
Wishing You Both and Your Family...
The Best Of Everything -
also that Time,Love and Patience Can Help You Both!!!

Sincerly,
Ana

Ersh - above said it Beautifully !!

I Personally like both of you D.D. & T`ea.
Wishing You Both and Your Family... The Best Of Everything!!!

Sincerly,
Ana

wow, hopefully he does not have to get a divorce because of this. Best of Luck

Ersh,
Well said. I love him. But it stopped being love in a way a wife loves her husband. I care about his happiness and health, this is why I keep sticking it out, year after year.

Oh... I've said enough. But thanks for sharing a well thought out, reasonable perspective.

Hey guyz....! Could you people stop philosophiing about sex and life? David needs help here. I don't see anyone of you trying to suggest any form of USEFUL and PRACTICAL ways of solving David's problem here. Hello.......wake up!

I don't feel sorry for her at all, as in a prior interview she romanced his addiction in an interview after playboys 97 interviewcame out and she was asked about it. So she knew all along what she was getting into .

I find sex addiction really silly. I would have understood if he would have gone in an alcohol rehab… or a Drug Rehab… but sex addiction center?! I am wondering what the treatment is. :P